As we start to move through June, I can’t quite seem to comprehend where the past 6 months have gone. We’re now over half way through the year, yet it doesn’t feel like long ago at all that I was saying goodbye to 2018. A lot has changed this year, and yet it still feels very much the same. A rather contradictive mix I know. Among many things, this year has been somewhat of a year for learning, so I wanted to take some time to reflect on my lessons so far...
Sometimes you need to hit the pause button…
No one knows you better than you know yourself. Therefore its perfectly logical to conclude that the best person to know when you are nearing burn out or need a break is, well, you! More importantly, there is absolutely nothing wrong with needing to take a break and recharge your batteries. By break, I don’t purely mean using annual leave for time out of work, it can be a break from absolutely anything.
As much as I may advertise myself as an advocate for self-care, I know in the past I’ve been a little lacking when it came to applying it to myself. This year I’ve made a conscious effort to listen to my mind and body, to recognise when I need a break, what from and to take it. I had a rather long quiet period in March where I didn’t write on here very much, and at the same time had a bit of a detox from social media in general. I felt so much better for it! Whilst I’m perhaps not posting as frequently as I’d prefer, I feel far more motivated and have certainly been sharing much more content than before my break and more importantly, I’ve enjoyed putting it together far more.
People come and go, and that’s okay
Last year I had a few new additions to the group I call friends, but I said goodbye to some from that group too. It doesn’t matter the circumstance surrounding the loss of a friend from your circle, it is painful, but it’s also a natural part of life. As I’ve learned however, in some cases you haven’t really lost anything, because the relationship was one sided all along. You can make the effort to be there for someone, support them, but that doesn’t mean when the tables are turned, and you are the one in need of support that they will do the same for you. It doesn’t even need to be malicious, some people are simply not wired to think like that. There comes a point however, where you’ve had one too many let downs, and you realise the friendship simply isn’t working. There doesn’t have to be any hard feelings, and you don’t need to dislike the person, but its important to have a relationship, in any capacity, that’s balanced.
There is some element of positivity here, and that’s that its allowed me to free up the energy I would have used on these unfulfilling relationships to really bond and get close with some amazing people. People who give and take, and whom I can have a really well rounded bond with.
You are capable than more than you think
Something that’s been long ingrained in my personality is a lack of confidence or belief in myself and my own ability. I’m an overthinker, I always have been, and there’s many times it gets the better of me. My mind goes off on a complete tangent, and starts seeding doubt in my capabilities, and it spirals from there. I’m not even sure where it came from in the first place, but in the past few months it feels like I’m finally being less harsh and giving myself the credit when I deserve it.
I’m finally starting to acknowledge how far I’ve come, what I’ve achieved so far, and realise that maybe I haven’t been overestimating my abilities or overreaching. Success and accomplishment have a number of measures, and I think I overlooked far too many of them. To have this new injection of confidence feels great, and I really hope I can keep it going and use it as a motivator to working on some of the things that have been on my ‘to do’ list for quite some time.
I’ve been keen on the idea of migrating my blog over to a new platform for some time now, but all I seem to do is keep talking and thinking about it without any action. Part of it was simply down to finding the time to do it, but it was also down to not feeling I’d be able to. That is would be too complex. Sadly due to my current platform, I can’t migrate my posts, but that doesn’t mean I can’t find a way to transfer them over to their new home, even if I have to do it manually. Its time to stop procrastinating and get it started.
What lessons have you learned over the past six months?